What height do girls like? The REAL Answer!
“You’re never going to get a hot girl because you’re short!” “Girls don’t like short guys!”
It’s about time a woman puts these thoughts to rest for you guys! I am not saying that 100% of women don’t want a tall guy, ‘cause to tell you the truth, I was once like that too. But this really isn’t the case. So many men think that they are short when they’re actually an average height. So if you still don’t believe me, let’s chat about the question, “Do girls like tall guys?”
Let’s start off clear with one another. I’m going to give you some statistics here. Did you know that only about 13% of the American population is comprised of tall men? So, if you’re one to say, “Oh, I’m a short guy and I’m never gonna get a girl,” or “All women love tall men,” then that’s a preconceived notion. Think about it: only 13% of men are 6 feet and taller in the United States. Clearly, if factual data is what gets to you, you can see that women don’t only love tall guys. But if you still are unconvinced, I’m gonna give you some clarity more around this topic.
You may be wondering, what height do girls like? My answer to this question would be that height doesn’t always matter. However, if you are a man who isn’t exactly tall, here are 3 key tips on how to stand out:
- Dress the part
- Be unapologetically honest
- Stop thinking less of yourself
Read on to discover more about these key tips in-depth!
Why Do Girls Like Tall Guys: The REAL Answer:
Now, I can tell you right off the bat that a woman doesn’t mind if a man is short. What she does mind is if he has no confidence, if he is someone she can walk all over, if he has no dignity and no purpose, if he is a man with no self-respect, a man that doesn’t know how to lay down boundaries, a man that doesn’t have his own values…
There’s so much more to it than his height! If a woman was only attracted to tall men, then it would be harder for her to even find someone, because who’s to say these tall men have a sense of purpose and can offer a sustainable relationship? I remember dating tall men and they had nothing to offer so I dumped them early on. Just because a man is tall does not mean he is going to get in a relationship with a woman. So instead of whether or not he’s a tall guy, It’s about how a man carries himself.
When you’re a man that’s thinking that, “Oh, I’m short, and I won’t get a woman,” it’s just an excuse. You’re already setting yourself up to lose. Holding on to this mindset is accepting that you will lose and you’re encouraging failure. Be careful with allowing yourselt to think, “Oh, I’m too short, I’m not gonna find a woman. It’s hard for me to get a girl because I’m short.”
This shows a lot of securities and what others like to call “beta male qualities.” I hate to compare beta male and alpha male, saying that being an alpha is superior, because I don’t think that being a beta male and alpha male is bad or good. What I do think is that you have to have the right dose of each of them. The beta male comes when it’s relationship. Think openness, vulnerability, communication… and the alpha male comes when you’re setting standards, seduction, your self-image, and how you carry yourself. It’s the same thing with women – an alpha woman and a beta woman — masculine energy and feminine energy.
When it comes to attraction, a woman is not attracted to a man that looks like he is lacking in his life. I mean that he feels that he’s not good enough because he’s short, that he’s not good enough because he doesn’t have confidence. If you don’t have self-confidence and a pride in yourself from within, a woman is going to be able to feel this. She might not know exactly what it is and exactly why she’s not attracted to you, but it’s all an energy, and that’s exactly what she’s gonna pick up from you.
Instead of thinking about why do girls like tall guys, or what height is considered to be tall, I want you to think about this: What encourages you? What encourages you in your life to really feel confident? Start doing those things. Maybe it’s taking a Jiu-Jitsu class, playing basketball, playing football etc. What encourages you to do those things?
Why Do Women Like Tall Men: This Is A Myth!
Surround yourself with friends that bring you up and the ones you can learn to be more confident around. Go out there and meet people and go to seminars to meet like-minded individuals. There are so many things that you can do to cultivate good relationships with people that are gonna keep you thriving! When you do this, you start to see qualities that work for other individuals and you can learn so much from this.
If you have a lack of confidence because you’re short and you’re worried you’re not gonna be desirable to a woman, then that means that you don’t have a lot of self-esteem, that you don’t have a lot of confidence, and you’re allowing yourself to live in a form of lack. Change that, because your mindset has a lot to do with the way you look at life, and what (and who) you attract. If you want to attract a hot woman you have to come from an abundance mindset. It’s about how you position yourself to a woman, how you show up as a man in front of her, and how you add value to your own life so she can see what value you have to offer her. The same thing goes vice versa; she should be able to offer you somethieng as well.
The reason why women are initially attracted to tall men is because they have a strong presence about them. It can come off masculine to a woman and this is why she is attracted to this. It starts there but if the man has nothing to offer, then it’ll quickly fizzle. Once again, just because someone is tall, it does not mean he is confident. When a woman starts to get to know a man she makes the decision off of how he makes her feel. This grows in time and the way you carry yourself is what will have one of the biggest impacts. If you come from a place of lack instead of a place from abundance then a woman will figure this out and start to see you in a different light. I made a seminar called Master your Confidence Audio Seminar that I encourage you to invest in. This will help you tremendously!
Tall guys vs short guys: 3 Tips!
So you’re a man that perhaps is not the tallest and you’re wondering how you can stand out from tall men. Here are some tips to do so.
Dress the part:
There is something very attractive about a man that can be very presentable to a woman’s eye. This does not mean you have to be flashy and wear high price ticket items but the best thing you can do here is be clean cut and well put together.
Be unapologetically honest:
This is about being honest and keeping up with the witty banter with a woman. Sometimes men are too shy to say what’s on their mind but when they do in a respectful manner, it shows the woman he isn’t afraid to go after what he wants.
Stop thinking less of yourself:
Height does not define you as a person and if you think it does, then you have to change this and master your confidence. As I said above, a women can feel this. When you don’t have the confidence you need, you will easily put the woman you like on a pedestal.
Find something you’re passionate about:
When a man is happy in his life and going after his goals in life with a purpose, it shows a woman a level of stability that you have within yourself. The right woman will appreciate this more then you just being tall!
Lastly, since I started with a statistic I want to end it with another dose of reality. There are many women out there that were young or young minded once and wanted a tall man but then realized that they were going after something that was not going to offer them true love. They were getting superficial things. Because this happens, women may go through heartbreak and become more realistic about what is truly going to make them happy. An honest, trustworthy man with solid confidence and dignity will be the one she chooses. So stop wasting your time wondering if girls like short guys because there is one thing I know as a woman that’s for sure… There are a lot more important things than a guy’s height when it comes to a lasting relationship!
Your Coach,
Apollonia Ponti
Apollonia Ponti, an international certified coach and founder of apolloniaponti.com. She works with men to attract the woman they desire, build confidence, master their attraction skills and helps rebuild relationships.
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When one considers that a very wide majority of women are unapproachable and openly hostile, is a guy’s height (or lack thereof) really a deal breaker? If anything, it looks like just one more reason for unfriendly women not to give guys the time of day. Resigned SMH.
Hi Mickey,
Thank you for reading my blog. You asked if height is a deal breaker? only if you believe that it is! Woman are more attracted to confidence. I encourage you to develop your self confidence. I have two audio seminar that I highly recommend. The first one is called Mastering your confidence and the 2nd one is Overcoming your neediness, fears and insecurities. If interested here are the links
https://www.apolloniaponti.com/masteryourconfidence
https://www.apolloniaponti.com/OvercomeNeedinessSeminar
Best,
Apollonia
I really loved this coaching, thanks
I would really love if you can help me in winning this girl …we work at the same company but we are in different departments & I really like this girl but the problem is I don’t know if she likes me back …we have been talking for the past 1 week & whenever we talk she’s always smiles & there’s always a good vibe between us, though today I feel like I was messing up which might end ruining my chance with her … please help
I can relate from personal experience that confidence is key. I’m all of 5’3-5’4, but I get to date *most* of the women I want. It was not always this way…in fact, it was the exact opposite.
It’s not from being cocky or overdoing it, but I find that women enjoy being around a man when they “click”. Make them laugh and they feel comfortable sharing banter. They end up sharing secrets, building some level of trust/ intimacy. I let them speak their mind without fear of offending me, even if it’s about grumpy short dudes (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻
I also give them a good ribbing! Don’t fawn over a woman and have her laugh only at your expense. The more she feels that you don’t need her, but you enjoy her company, the more she’ll be at ease around you. Need scares women away and they are very good at sensing it.
Seriously. BTW, it’s not even about ethnicity. I’m African and I date pretty much all ethnicities.
Some key things that work for me are:
– What Apollonia said. Dress good.
– Wear killer cologne. Smelling good is not an option, nor is good hygiene.
– Humour. Laugh and make laugh!
– Relax. Don’t be tense.
– Don’t be thirsty. Huge turnoff. Do you like desperate, nagging or needy women? Exactly.
– Assertiveness. Don’t dither until you enter the friend zone. It’s a ***** to get back out of. Show and state your intent without being disrespectful.
– Avoid anger. It shows insecurity.
– Don’t overdo it. Don’t try to look bigger than you are, it’s silly and laughable.
Happy dating, boys.
Hi Lloyd,
Thank you for reading my blog and for sharing your experiences. It’s helpful when my viewers see comments that come from their peers.I wish you the best.
Apollonia
Doesn’t this belief come from actually being rejected for being short and gets reinforced when that happens repeatedly?
You also mentioned that women eventually come around and don’t use height as a criterion later in life. Isn’t that settling? Why would anyone wanna be someone else’s bronze medal?
This is a great article! It’s important to focus on the things you can control and accept the things you can’t. Besides, if women didn’t like short men, there wouldn’t be any. Your height is determined by genetics, which your father managed to pass on to the next generation, somehow. So you should be able to do it too.
Your comment is true to some extent. However, you could inherit the short trait from your mother. You father could be the tall one.
I agree with this article. Apollonia covered some great points. I am a girl I totally agree with everything she said.
I used to consider only 6 foot tall guys as potential partners. It’s different now. I have met some guys that were confident, pleased with themselves and with great and kind personalities. They made me rethink my dating criteria. I dated them.
As one of the viewer said aside confidence, it is important to show the girl that you don’t need her, but you enjoy her company. It is always important to dress well while staying true to yourself. Also invest in great colognes/perfumes (so important).
What women truly want is to be happy, be with someone who is confident in themselves, someone who has integrity and that they can trust. Someone who has great vibes and who is strong.
Being tall is not synonymous with being strong. Strength comprise intelligence, wisdom, speed, ability to think fast etc.. qualities anyone could have regardless of their heights.
I’m 5’7 by the way.
I’m 5’4 and despite approaching many women, I’ve never gotten anything but insults. Frankly I’m tired of it, I have no idea what other short guys do, but where I live it really seems that I have zero chance.
Hi Mark. Thank you for taking the time to read Do Girls Like Tall Guys? I can understand the frustration with that, people can be mean without intending to be. Women really just care about a man who is confident, has purpose and can own who they are. I would suggest looking at the insults as jokes and throw it back. Show people that it doesn’t bother you and really work on not taking things personally. Some people can be mean with anything and it doesn’t matter about your height, that’s just what they can choose at that moment. Keep going and don’t give up hope. I would recommend doing a private coaching session so I can coach you through this and help you find what you’re looking for! https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/
Best,
Apollonia
If I were to tell a woman I’m not interested in her because she’s overweight (or for some other profoundly shallow reason), would it be reasonable to expect her to take it as a joke? She’d likely accuse me of harassment. To be honest, when women tell me (and they always do) that I’m a great guy but too short for them to date, I lose interest in them right away. I don’t let it bother me at the time and always find a way to laugh it off – because that’s what guys are supposed to do. Since I never get dates though, it does take it’s toll – after all, I’m only human, and despite what anyone tells you, constant and consistent rejection hurts. I’ve tried online dating, but it’s worse – I’m always honest about my height (I won’t lie) – and literally every woman I message writes back and says she’d love to meet me if I was taller.
Clearly you haven’t looked at female profile son dating apps. I can randomly pick any woman and 99% of them will always have tall as a preference or stress they only want a tall man. So how does a man’s confidence or lack thereof show when they are already shot down before he can even say hello?
Yes confidence is important but beauty and being tall is a truth for today’s people, I wish I was tall but I’m 170 cm
Every girl I dated rejected me because of my baby faced skin and short 170 cm height women are so heartless :’-(
Women don’t go for short guys. It’s in a womens hindbrain to mate with the best genes for their offspring. There are many studies on this.
Small guys s are called manlets.
I sadly agree, as a fellow short guy. I’m 5’6 and have always been told I’m very attractive and well built. But at social events and parties, etc…I’m never even noticed because I’m immediately deemed as a beta male because of my less masculine appearance. And I am very confident and often the loudest in the room, so confidence isnt the issues. Like you said, it’s just an evolutionary trait for woman to desire a larger man
Hey Hamish,
Often times if we’re the loudest one in the room, that comes from feeling insecure and like we won’t be seen. OWN who you are. Try not having to be so loud. Confidence comes from within not trying to prove anything. I think this is where to start. I would get a couple friends that are girls (and even guy friends) and ask them how they perceive you and what they think and ask the girl friends for tips! Women make the best winggirls and they can help you with what you might be missing too when you’re out. We have a tendency to think people percieve us in one way and that’s not always the case. Maybe being loud pushes some women away. Ask your girlfriends and go deeper.
Best,
Apollonia
height doesn’t matter,how you feel about it does,take it from a guy who went home with way taller women,”m 5,5 and went home with 6 ft,so stop bitching about it and go out,girls dont mind being short,they mind being insecure little bitches,Apollonia is right,and i am the proof,if you dont believe me,it”s your limiting belief
Hey Kidfrompu, thank you for reading Do Girls Like Tall Guys. There you go! Exactly! It’s all about how you really feel about yourself! You can change your limiting beliefs.
Glad you enjoyed the article!
Wishing you the absolute best,
Apollonia
The issue with this article, is that yes, confidence is the main attraction driver for a male partner, but as mentioned, a taller guy is going to give off the impression of being confident and masculine and is therefore going to be given a chance and be noticed by girls. Where as if your short, no matter how confident you are, girls wont notice you half as much or give you much of a chance to prove yourself as an alpha male, as your height will have them assume immediately that your a beta male with little confidence. So actually height is therefore the main driver in womans attraction to men…
Too bad modern women are extremely superficial and promiscuous, the challenge is to have them understand that they will end up used and abused sloppy seconds that no self respecting man will marry..
Going after a small percentage of the population for what, the illusion of security? They’ve got it all wrong, I’m 5′ 10 200lbs and have no troubles handling any guy above 6′, it’s a myth, being tall only means you are stretched out genetically but strenght stamina and courage comes in all sizes, hell… the men who fought in Normandy where all about 5’7 to 5′ 9… the tall ones are usually lanky and weak and go down like flies (not all not all)…
Fear no one, respect yourself and do not take shit attitude from modern women… remember this, if we took electricity out and there was no more grid left, most women would not have the choices they have and probably could not survive with only 13% of the population protecting them…
I disagree because I am outright rejected daily for my below average height of 5’6. Yes, women tell me, you’re too short. I am not even given a chance, game over. It’s getting worse.
You can get any woman you want if you are Rich. Simple. Can you Imagine Bill Gates asking a 6 foot tall lady out? No way! she’s probably the one to ask him out, why, because he can take care of her, her family, her friends and up to her 5th generations. So all of you talking about being rejected by a lady and all that stuff because of height should rethink about it.
Small tip: you really don’t have to be as rich as Bill is.. Just be you and be successful in what you do and boom the short, tall, fat, lanky, dark, and fair women are at your door. What’s this?.. Please go and become successful in your business come back and thank me later. 👋 Bye. From your Alpha male. Pp.
Saw your article and thought I would add a different perspective. I am a reasonably tall guy 6’2”and have dated
girls/women from 5’3” to 6’7” and the truth I prefer taller
women and honestly if there’s a perfect height for me
it’s 6’1” and at this height she can have her obsession with
heels and for the most part we line up and I don’t have to
keep hearing the nonsense about wearing heels like I had to with the woman that was 6’7” which so many times was
at best awkward and really for both of us even without the
heels. but maybe manageable, WHY?
I am an undergrad and I read many articles like this. Now, let me tell you why I do this. I may be a young player doodling around, but all of those recent times, what I have learnt is that you really need one thing, your “self-improvement”. Whether be it relationships, or having a purpose in life, or making an impact in this community, what all you need is your own true self and a will to make people’s lives happier around you.
Ms. Apollonia, your article has a clear and distinct way of presenting all this. Kudos for such a finely written piece. I am looking forward for more of such articles. Thanks for reminding me who I am.
Hi Divyansh,
Thank you so much for writing to us, your kind words, and your continuous support.
We love what we do and our purpose is to help others understand what you just said and put it to practice.
best,
Apollonia’s team
Because of being quarantined with all the time I have and came across this site I found interesting and it brought back a situation many years ago I had in a relationship with
an absolutely gorgeous girl 6’1” and i’m 6’2” and I know we were attracted to each other by looks and height or height and looks. She was very feminine and honestly for the mostly part we lined up very well even as I recall when she
wore a lower heel and she maybe went from an 1” shorter
to a couple of inches taller and it still was great and comfortable and honestly the sex was always great with
her and then she wanted to get married and she also
started wearing like a 5” or 6” heel and I not her became
very uncomfortable with her being that much taller and no
matter how she tried to convince me how incredible we
were and looked together I couldn’t or wouldn’t handle
be able to handle it, we broke up, stayed in touch
for a while then lost contact and some 40 years later
I can honestly say she was the love of my life and should
not have let her get away and I do regret it.
Women are NOT attracted to “confidence” and “personality”. The assumption that they are is the myth. Women aren’t even attracted to height like they claim to be. They are attracted to looks alone, at least initially. You and your kind are deceptive liars.
Sorry, you think that way but that’s far from the truth. Look, and walk around. Not many women are with “attractive model” looking men. That mentality is going to make you stuck and I’m sorry that you’re frustrated.
Also, women care more about height in their partner than men do because they are far more insecure of and care more about how how society perceives them in public. Men are far less insecure. So it’s not that they are actually more attracted to height. It’s that they want to feel smaller and cuter (a.k.a. narcissists). And yet, they blame men for feeling insecure about their short stature lol. Also, most of all mental health patients are women.
What’d mean “supermodels”? I never said they wanted that. Are you high?