How To Attract A Girl: 10 Psychology Techniques To Attract Her Forever!
How to attract women! This is what every man wants to know when he is dating and looking to have relationships with women. This is also the holy grail of all questions asked by men when it comes to the seduction process. A lot of times, men think it’s more complicated than it really is, but it’s actually quite simple!
What makes me say this? As a woman that works with men to help them master the art of attraction and get results, I give you the NO BS answers on how women think and the right ways to attract women. I can offer you insight that no man can really know or understand since I’m a woman myself!
This is probably one of my most favorite blogs to date because this is something that I know works, and I am going to give you results that make you switch your way of attracting women to the right way. In this blog, you will find that I am going to go over EVERYTHING you need to know in order to successfully attract women. I am not going to give you any BS advice about listening to her, supporting her, being nice to her, no! Though respect is incredibly important, I am going to give you real results. Ready?
I love hearing from you so please comment below with your thoughts and any questions after reading this blog.
How To Make A Girl Attracted To You With These 7 Mindsets
The way you approach this situation is going to make a huge difference, so let’s take a look at what you need to keep in mind.
#1 You do not have to prove yourself to anyone
You have clarity in your life about who you are as a person. If you are not going to be desired by this one specific woman, you know you will be desired by another woman! You don’t say things to get her to like you, you know that you are enough and you don’t think women are better than you.
#2 You are not addicted to an outcome
You don’t seek validation from another person and when you meet women, you don’t attach to a specific outcome even when you find a girl you like. You don’t put pressure on the woman to like you, because you come from a mindset that even though you might like her, you’re OK with or without her. When you start to get attached to an outcome or have expectations of this woman in the dating phase, you run the risk of becoming needy and overbearing.
#3 What value can I offer someone without expectations
Don’t go into this thinking, “What can I get out of this and what am I going to receive from this?” Instead, look at it without expectations and just be in the present moment. Show her you’re built with integrity by being your best self.
#4 Unapologetically honest mindset
You’re not going to say “You look fat in that dress,” but you have your own opinion so don’t be scared to react to something you may or may not agree on. Women don’t want someone to just absent-mindedly agree with them.
#5 Value your time to see if this woman is worth it
A lot of times men fixate on the aesthetics of the woman and fall for just that and don’t get to know what’s underneath the surface. Figure out what this woman is worth. Does she want something more serious or does she just want to have fun?
#6 You show up powerfully
You know who you are and are not pretending to be anyone else. Own your power and don’t hold back on saying and doing what you want. You become powerful when you focus on more than just the woman in front of you; A life focus.
#7 Compassionate and patient
Some men take automatic offense to anything and everything a woman says. You want to be someone who does not get irritated very easily. If not, it will show that you let other people control your emotions and have a short fuse. This shows a woman that you may not be stable and not have a sense of control over your emotions.
#8 You embrace failures with confidence
How you look at your mistakes as lessons and how you are in the moment when things aren’t going your way shows your character, so embrace failures with confidence and poise. Make sure you build the skills you need so you can avoid future issues.
How can a man attract a woman by avoiding neediness and pushiness
Remember, when it comes to attracting a woman, it’s not about focusing on her so much that you lose your own sense of self-worth and dignity in the process. A lot of times you can become your own worst enemy by getting in your own way and putting a lot of pressure on yourself to impress a woman when it’s not that difficult. Why? Because as a woman that has been in the dating game, I know when a man is putting a lot of pressure on himself to impress me and it makes me feel less attracted and less intrigued. It’s important to understand the difference between pursuing and being needy, and I believe this is where the breakdown is important when it comes to attracting women.
Pursuing: Claiming a date and being assertive in the direction that you are taking with her. Show her that you are not interested in just being a nice guy but you are pursuing her by planning dates, checking in every once and a while and making sure she initiates as well. You create chemistry together on dates and talk about more than surface-level things. You aren’t afraid to talk about your wants and desires, but you also have an attitude about you that shows her that if she does not like you, you’re OK with that too. You are in demand with yourself and might even be in demand with other women. It’s important to understand that women are naturally attracted to masculine energy and that comes from the pursuit. During the first couple of dates, pursue her, create banter, be positive, but also be ok with giving her space. If you spend the whole weekend together because everything is going great, then make sure you understand that this will not be every weekend and you are not attached to a specific outcome.
Needy: You are attached to a specific outcome and you want to be with her right now and expect her to give you attention when you want it. You may, therefore, react out of neediness and reply to her texts in a way that comes off as aggressive or clingy because your emotions are not aligned with abundance and integrity. The #1 reason for this is because you get attached to a specific outcome right away and you are not ok with going with the flow of how this dating process should work between the both of you. You might even get into a “scarcity mindset,” where you think she is dating other guys, so you get jealous, and you bring up petty things that push her away instead of attracting her.
How to attract women without talking: The key to success!
Pursue a purpose:
When you are not driven intentionally by something you love, besides a woman, you can easily attach to love and that specific person. This, in turn, can hurt the relationship and yourself. Women love a man that has a purpose and follows his passion because it showcases strength and resilience, and it’s hard to sweat the small stuff when you won’t let anyone hold you back from pursuing what you need to do. This showcases dignity and independence with women. I’m not saying you should forget about this woman and just focus on your passion, but you should showcase to her how important your purpose is in your life.
Pace yourself:
Remember guys, women typically are the decision-makers when it comes to sex and the man is the decision-maker when it comes to the relationship. You have to make sure you know what this woman is all about and not get hooked just based on the story you’re telling yourself, or “How she could be”. Make sure you really get to know what this woman is all about before you give her all of you. Make sure both of you are looking for the same things and have the same goal in mind. Pursue with intent, not with lack of intent. The best way to do this is by staying on your purpose but not seeking external validation and not getting attached to the need for validation.
Give her space:
A sense of independence is hot! Ao giving her space is good. She has to see a part of your life you are excited about. When you desire something else besides her, it shows a strong masculine presence and the woman feels that she still has to work for something. This continues or boosts attraction. Women want a man of status and when you showcase status, in other words, that you place importance on other things besides her, it keeps women interested and they want to be a part of that with you.
Prioritize your time:
This has a lot to do with pursuing. Pursue with a purpose. Be clear on when you want to see her and be disciplined enough to focus on your own goals when you’re in the attraction stage and when you are starting to date. You want to show a woman that you manage your life well and it’s not all about her in the beginning, but you’re interested in where this could go in the future.
Stop being hooked on an expectation:
A lot of times you can’t to any of the above because you get hooked on expectations of what you must get from this woman and you have a goal in mind before she even has one. This is what I call the “Blinders.” You have your blinders on and you want a specific goal or have a specific expectation, so you build up to worry and/or doubt since your expectations may not be met, and this is exacrly where you can come off overbearing, needy, or plenty of other things. Having expectations too early on is the root of killing attraction.
See yourself as quality:
Placing a high value on yourself shows the woman that she has something to work for as well. Never think you’re less than anyone. Instead, think about the qualities you have that will impact any woman’s life!
Eradicate all jealousy:
Some women will try to make you jealous. An insecure guy focuses on the other guy and starts to get jealous. The secure guy focuses on her and questions her intentions in terms of what she may be doing or why she may be saying certain things. You question her, not the guy, because you couldn’t care less about the guy!
Body Language:
Hold your head up and shoulders back with integrity. Don’t fidget or overthink things. There is something very attractive about the calm demeanor of a man. This is a topic that I explore in my Escalation Cheat Sheet, and you can it right here.
Showcase social proof “status”:
Understand that these traits are under your control. Social proof can be defined by your lifestyle choices, occupation, how you groom yourself, health and fitness, confidence and lack of neediness in your behavior. As I have studied the human brain, research has shown that women are primarily attracted to men who are perceived to be of a higher status. That’s why it so important to make sure you are constantly advancing in your life and putting in the work.
As a woman, I’ve dated men that were still in college and living with their parents, but they had an inner confidence that still showcased status. I would notice men like this had no problem getting women. They actually had women support them while they were working on getting on their feet. Status is determined by behavior! By the way, sexual attraction is determined by behavior as well.
Make her chase you:
Let her initiate with you a bit. Don’t let her just stay on the sidelines and do no work. No text, no calls, nothing! Women do want to be pursued by men, but they are great at reciprocating. So make sure this woman is doing this in the beginning and then after a couple of weeks of dating, make sure she is initiating.
How to attract any woman by not being the needy man!
Let’s say you have everything going for you but as soon as you meet a woman you like, you immediately get hooked! Which results in fight or flight mode in your mind. You find yourself trying so hard, as though this is your only opportunity with a woman. This turns into needy behavior when everything you had going for you goes down the drain.
I would never want you to disregard your feelings but I do want you to be disciplined enough on when you should and should not showcase them as a result of neediness. Here are some guidelines designed to help you out:
Lying to a woman to make yourself become more attractive in her eyes.
NEEDINESS
Memorizing lines or routines to meet women, avoid rejection and not be authentic.
NEEDINESS
Always working to impress a woman instead of seeing if she can impress you
NEEDINESS
Calling a woman multiple times because she didn’t call you back or you never got an answer. NEEDINESS
Understanding if a woman never called you back then she was not the right one anyway.
NOT NEEDY
Rising up and expressing your masculinity pertaining to desires and interest. Openly, honestly and respectfully.
NOT NEEDY
Accepting criticism of yourself from others by always saying “yes” instead of “no”.
NEEDINESS
Being fearful, hiding your flaws and not calling yourself out to make light of the situation.
NEEDINESS
Being comfortable with not being perfect and finding humor in your flaws.
NOT NEEDY
Feeling like you have to CONTROL and “dominate”.
NEEDINESS
Having high standards about the women you date and want a woman who enjoys you and makes you happy! Treating a woman as an equal.
NOT NEEDY
Resenting the woman you date and talking down to her since this you think will make her want you.
NEEDINESS
Constantly investing in improving yourself for yourself ONLY. Not to impress a woman or to make people like you, but to be happier with yourself!
NOT NEEDY
Improving yourself only to impress a girl you like.
NEEDINESS
Thinking that life is better with this one specific woman, even if she does not want you.
NEEDINESS
Stalking her social media accounts and then asking her about these things later or asking her about other men.
NEEDINESS
Disciplined enough to question her intentions and respect for you or the relationship (and not the other man.)
NOT NEEDY
Not granting her wishes by continuing to try to persuade her after she told you to leave her alone or that she does not want to be with you.
NEEDINESS
Giving the relationship time, focusing on what will make you happier and more solid in your life with no attachment to being with this specific woman, and being open to reconciling in the future.
NOT NEEDY
Needy behavior will only attract toxic relationships, unfulfilling relationships, and needy women. If you’ve been needy in the past then you have most likely been in dysfunctional relationships. If you have not been able to attract women in your life, then chances are you’ve been so needy in your own behavior that you’ve consciously or subconsciously decided to remain alone.
If this is you, I encourage you to invest in my Master Attractor- Friend Zone no more course to get you out of this!
How Do You Attract Women With Confidence:
Women are turned on by bold behavior and from my research and studies, when you understand the difference between the female mind and the male mind, then you will understand this. I teach this in my membership group and in my boot camps. Women desire bold behavior and a man who displays bravery, and direct sexual desire, especially to a woman who is interested.
You must go out there and start trying to attract women so you can learn your authentic techniques. You cannot build expectations for everything to go the way you want because you learn through practice. If you get nervous around women, it can be a turn off so you have to push yourself to continue until it becomes a routine. When it becomes something you’re used to, the nervousness goes away.
If you’re afraid to talk to her, ask her out, ask for a kiss, or even to take her home, chances are you will be the friend or the guy that never gets the girl. Men underestimate how forward they can be with women. So, they underestimate how effective this can be to open up sexual desires and compatibility with women.
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Becoming an attractive man to a high-quality woman is about being a man that invests in himself and wears his sense of pride with dignity, with respect for himself and caring for himself, but not in a manipulative or narcissistic way. How you feel about yourself is how you perceive others, and the key is understanding that beautiful women are out there, but the most important thing is what’s underneath. External investments will not lead you to find love and an empowering relationship. This is a superficial and dysfunctional relationship, and in the worst-case scenario, it will bring you absolutely nothing and will probably set you back. So proceed with caution, guys.
My hope is that this blog gives you a solid foundation on how to attract women and understand the major principles that women want in a man. I’ve written tons of other articles about this so don’t worry, it does not just stop here!
Your Coach,
Apollonia Ponti
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You should write a blog/video on “What if you screwed up some of the above process”.
In short Mission Recovery.
Thanks for reading my blog about how to attract women. 🙂
Apollonia
That’s a good suggestion. I think it would help a lot of guys.
Thanks mam for the blog post. Do you have anything on long distance relationship and how to seduce through texts? It would be so kind of you if you reply to the question of your fan. Cheers!
Hi Ayon,
Nice name. Thank you for reading my blog about how to attract women. Yes, I have something perfect for you! Here is the link https://www.apolloniaponti.com/how-to-text-a-woman
Best,
Apollonia
Thank you so much Apollonia. I loved the bit where you were about handling jealousy. You are really empowering and inspiring. Allah bless you Apollonia.
Hi Mustafa,
Thank you so much! Happy you enjoyed my blog about how to attract a girl!
Apollonia
Dear Apollonia, great summary of all your key concepts. Moreover, with your help (even though not personalized yet), I went from struggling in a relationship dictated by a woman I placed on a pedestal to dating two desirable women the past few weeks who appreciate me and reciprocate pursuit. My only problem is deciding who gets the “rose” … so to speak. Thanks for helping rebuild my confident, masculine self! , Stuart
Thank you Appolonia…. this blog was so comprehensive and I have been there and now I am doing what you’ve laid out.
Amazing! Happy you read the blog on how to attract a girl! Happy you enjoyed it.
Best,
Apollonia
Fantastic, Apollonia. You have done it again!
Hi Hans,
Thanks so much. Happy you enjoyed my blog about how to attract a girl!
Best,
Apollonia
Thank you Hans! Thanks for reading my blog about how to attract a girl!
You’re right, Apollonia, I don’t have to prove myself to anyone. And I don’t try to prove myself to, or even approach women I like, precisely because I know that no woman – whomever she is – will or could ever desire me. I’ve tried, but I honestly can’t picture myself as ‘desirable’ to anyone. I get very lonely sometimes, but there is zero point in trying. This is not what I want, but I know that no woman will ever want me. Other guys are by default always more attractive than I am.
I call this “men’s food” no man can ever go wrong with these mindsets stipulated in this blog. Thanks alot Apollonia
I appreciate you! THank you Nato
Well, psychology is key. I believe I should’ve started here before jumping in the misty things. Today I’ve understood a lot: Don’t be needy, Invest in yourself.
Thanks Coach Appolinia.
Hi Spenciro,
Thank you for your comment and reading this blog. 🙂
Best,
Apollonia
Hey Apollonia there someone I want to date. But I only see her on social media Facebook, never in person. I will message her for a date. Specially after reading you blog…..
Awesome!! 🙂
Hi Apollonia,
I enjoy reading your blogs but for me they are like science fiction. The only way I could ever experience any form of intimacy would be to pay for it – and I’m not that sort of person. I have no problem talking to women, but have never expressed sexual/romantic interest in a woman or asked a woman out because rejection would always be guaranteed. Other guys at least have the potential to attract women on a romantic/ sexual level, but no matter how hard I wish I could be of interest to women, I can’t be and so just have to accept that I’ll always be a friend and never a boyfriend or more.
Looks like you’ve accepted this so this is what you will attract. I’m so sorry to hear this but you are the ultimate driver of your life and your mindset that you’ve adapted to will always lead the way. I also think you’ve made the decision about how to attract women and I cannot change that unless you’re willing to change that mindset. Wishing you the very best and thank you for your honest and reading my blog about how to attract women.
Apollonia
Apollonia, we have a massive problem here. Women swear up and down that they want to be approached…but their attitude says: BUT NOT BY YOU!!! After that, can anyone be surprised that so many guys have thrown in the sponge and have therefore given the middle finger to the myth of approaching and dating?
Hi Apollonia – I’m a very shy, quiet and introverted man. I’ve had many experiences in my life when I’ve talked to women and they’ve been enthusiastic at the beginning but after a few conversations they’ve stopped talking to me altogether. I’ve been told that I’m “too quiet” or “too polite” or something by other women I’ve asked about this – but nobody has ever given me a sensical explanation of what these things mean. Do you have any insights?
Hi Robert. Thank you for taking the time to read How To Attract a Girl. I would need to know more about your situation but it sounds like you might need to work on escalating and making your intentions with a woman clear. I would definitely suggest getting the Escalation Cheat Sheet https://www.apolloniaponti.co/escalation-cheat-sheet
If you’re hearing you’re “too polite” or “too quiet” then perhaps a woman feels like you might not be interested in her, and you can look at confidence and assertiveness. The Escalation Cheat Sheet should help a lot!
Best,
Apollonia
Hi Apollonia – I never ‘escalate’ (I assumed this means express sexual interest) with women – even those I find very attractive – because I know my interest/intentions will never be reciprocated. No woman has ever given me the slightest indication she might be interested in me sexually, and I won’t risk being accused of a crime by escalating first.
But to put any of your great tips – here or elsewhere – into practice, a guy has to actually be able to visualize the possibility of success with a woman in the first place. I’m 37, have never asked a woman out and have never been kissed. I have several woman friends, but with literally every one, I’m by default in what you’ve elsewhere called the “emotional friend zone”. I’ve tried for decades to force myself to accept that a woman somewhere might find me attractive enough to talk to – and perhaps even date. – but no matter what anyone (counsellors, therapists, coaches, etc.), says, I can’t do it. This is why I’m chronically single. some of us are hopeless.
Hi Apollonia –
I have many women friends, but no woman has ever been interested in me sexually because they don’t see me that way. I never express my sexual interest to any woman – even those I find very attractive – because they would likely be offended that someone like me could see them that way. Women like to be approached by guys *they find attractive*, not guys like me. Throughout my life, it has always been made clear that I’m not entitled to be seen as sexual beings by women because I’m too quiet and introverted. This is not something I can change because it’s the way I am. I dress well, take care of myself, have a good sense of humour, a very well-paying job, own properties, have my own house, etc., but none of it matters. You advise that I “must go out there and start trying to attract women so [I] can learn [my] authentic techniques”, but what if this just isn’t possible? As I said, I can talk to women easily, and attract them as *friends* – but nothing more.
Hi Rudy. Thank you for taking the time to read How to Attract a Girl. It sounds like before you put yourself out there you need to have that confidence and happiness within yourself first. Make sure that you love yourself, take yourself out on dates. Find that inner confidence, because that comes from within you and not from a relationship or a woman.
There absolutely will be women out there who find you attractive. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself. Exercise and eat right, take care of your health and hygiene. I would also suggest the Master your Confidence seminar https://www.apolloniaponti.co/master-your-confidence-myc
Best,
Apollonia
Hi Apollonia – thanks, but if “take [my]self out on dates” means going places, doing activities / going out (‘treating’ myself) to meals alone, I’ve been there and done that. There is zero evidence that I am lovable – in spite of all I do professionally, and to take care of myself, etc., I have never sensed that women even know I exist, let alone find me attractive.
She has a boyfriend but like me. After one month of dating I walked away and applying no contact. Following your suggestion from your blogs. But still love her and hope everything will be ok. What can I do to have her.
Hi,
I just don’t know if I can remember all this or if I’m ready for it. I’ve been single all my life. Idek if I’m ugly or not. Like I try to be confident though i just have no experience. I want to change things. I just don’t want to change myself anymore than life already has. Just venting…..
Thank you for taking the time to read How to Attract a Girl. Life is about constantly evolving in to the person you want to be, in a good way. And sometimes that also means learning to reopen up and know that no matter what, you are enough and you are going to be okay. I would really suggest booking a private coaching session. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/
Best,
Apollonia
I am not lonely most of the time, but have never asked any woman out in my life – ever – because no matter what I do, I’ll always be unattractive to women. I don’t mean in terms of looks – I’m just not attractive and there seems to be nothing I can do about it. Men are advised to take risks and go after what they want, but the reality is that men who women find unattractive are deemed creeps/harassers however they approach a woman they like. On the other hand, as long as he is not overtly offensive, most women will let a guy they find attractive get away with saying/doing things they would charge an unattractive guy with harassment for doing. All of which is to say, for unattractive guys like me, the only option is *not* to go for what we want when it comes to women if we’re not willing to be accused of a crime. I don’t need anyone to make my life whole, but I would love to have a woman to share my life with. Being unattractive however, there is no way that will ever happen. This is reality and the crap about building confidence, etc., really is snake oil.
Dating – in fact, just approaching any woman at all – involves a lot more than emotional risk for men. Just smiling at a woman can get a guy accused of harassment, which can be very costly. I can deal with emotional risk, but I won’t put myself in a position where I could lose everything just for introducing myself. Before anyone tells me that it’s the ‘way’ I would approach a woman I’m interested in or how I feel about myself inside that determines her reaction to me, let me say that a confusing part of this whole flirting thing is the huge range of individual behaviors vs intent. I am a person who tries to be polite and kind to all and I’m also a good listener and conversationalist. But as a very introverted (and shy) guy with literally zero experience approaching women I find attractive / dating, etc., I never act sexual in public – no matter how attractive I find a woman. Not because I’m wimpy, lack confidence, or anything of the sort – but because I’m not about to put myself in a position where I could lose everything just for introducing myself. Fact: Misinterpretation of my intent by a woman could land me in court and I won’t go there.
I’m 43 and have yet to experience my first kiss or even hold a woman’s hand. I’ve been told many times that it is always up to the man to make the first move, but irrespective of what anyone says, I will not approach any woman – no matter how attractive I find her – without her first giving me a clear sign that she is open to me doing so. Since I never get signs from any woman, I never approach women.
“If you are not going to be desired by this one specific woman, you know you will be desired by another woman! ‘ – no Apollonia – I don’t know that. I have never known any woman to desire me, even once in my life. It is for this reason that I have never expressed sexual interest in any woman. Since no woman has ever given me a sign she’s interested, I don’t say or do anything. Without a clear signal from a woman, for a guy to make any sort of ‘first move” is to invite an accusation that could destroy his career.
Hey Thomas. Thank you for reading How to Attract a Girl. I would suggest making some female friends and going out with them. Pick their brains. See if they can point out when a woman is attracted to you. Make sure that you love who you are, that you are happy with yourself. Go to the gym, take care of yourself. How you feel about yourself is what you attract in your life.
At the end of the day, a woman still wants to be approached. Go out with some female friends and see if they can point out the body language and interest from women.
Best,
Apollonia
Raunard, i dont want to come off as critical because i can feel your pain.but man as long as you believe as you do you will be right. no one will want you. so u got to change your beliefs about yourself. what you are saying about yourself cant possibly be true bro. there are over 3.5 billion women in the world. it is highly likely that many will like you.does that make sense to you? remember, Dr Dwayne Dyer said truthfully “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” change the way you look at YOU my friend.
Thanks for chiming in with that Kevin! I love the way you phrased this! Thanks for checking out my article How to Attract a Girl. Wishing you the best!
Apollonia
Change beliefs based on what evidence? The number of women on the planet is irrelevant. There is no evidence that any of them do – or could – have any interest in me. For me to approach (even say hello to) any woman would literally be to invite a harassment accusation.
So i understand now that women are seeking for men who dont need women and also who dont need no body, who only need himself. This is why guys that have well visible features of selfishness , egocentricity, narcissism and apathy (or total apathy) attracts women more easily and have more success, even i can say have sucess, because others dont have, or must work very very hard to have it.
Also i know now that women are seeking for guys who are disconnected with other minds, and who are disconnected with the psychology of women, women are seeking only for men who are only connected to their own minds, not to others, and that dont give importance to women perception of them, to their way of thinking, and even to the existence of their psychology ! this is why again we come back to men who are self centered, who firstly and endlessly keep their minds inside their heads, and dont go look what else exist, except their minds, their thoughts, and themselves and so their world !
Those type of guys are magnetic to women, because of mystery, because they keep the doubt and mostly because women can’t control them, because women have no power on them !
And this is why having a life, and hobbies, making friends more important than girls, prioritizing our time, see my self as quality, give the girl space (to give that space in the end to our self) eradicate jalousy, have other girls in my life etc make women more attracted to me, Appolonia i know understand everything ! all this make me powerful against women ! it make me a strong guy, who is impossible to control to invest to conquere to colonize or to mind control, and we know women crave for things they can’t have, so it become a magnetism, women become like hypnotised by those men, it’s all about control, power, and craving for something impossible to get, or hard to get, wooow we come to hard to get ! so this is why being hard to get is so attractive ?
Okey but Apolonia, what if all this is just about power ?
Maybe it’s only about power, this is why girls like rich guys, because not of money but because they are powerful men ! And this is why girls like muscles, not because it’s sexy but because muscles is strengh and strengh it’s power ! and this is why girls like hot guys, because hot guys are genetically strong !
it’s about strengh and power. I need to become strong and powerful, this is why women react to energy not visual, woow ! they react to strengh and power in the guy, seduction is a pure energy story ?
This is why when im full of energy i attract and im successful, and when im not i become a turnoff, okey !
So, if women are attracted by strengh and power (by all types and genres of strengh and power) it seems obvious now why being needy is a turn off, because it allows control of us by women, it means that women are more strong and more powerful than us men who are needy, and women seek for men who are strong or stronger than them ! okey okey, Appolonia i understand everything now ! hahahaaaaaa !!!
But, Appolonia there is a trap here !
what if i want to be needy ? it’s strengh and power to choose to be needy with a girl ! no no wait.. not needy, im mean to chosse to chase a girl and crave her and try hard to get her !! this is what you can call needy, but what if i choose to dot those things that looks needy ? is it power ?
Because, if i dont do those things because to not seem needy, im fearing the reaction of girl, no ? im so fearing the girl, what she will think, what if she become not attracted.
So real strengh and real power, is to do what i want, right ?
So what if i want to be chasing the girl like i want and not fear the outcome or the reaction ?
I think real strengh and real power in seduction is to be everything !
Is to be needy, and not needy, and to chase the girl, and then to forget about her and make her chase her, is to have other girls in my life and also want her specifically, and then look if she is good for me, if not i forget her, or just have fun with her nothing more, etc etc
So it seems like a state of normal life and normal thinking, so maybe women are just seeking normal guys ? who think behave and live from an original, natural, way of thinking with no any fear ? so maybe power is just being normal and being a guy who behave like a guy should behave ? and being a humain like a human should be ?
Because when you date many girls, it’s the normal mind of guy !
So when no girl around in a guy’s life, it’s not normal ! hahaaaaaa !!
Also hen you are needy about one girl, it’s not normal, a guy should be needy about many girls ! also should not be needy since he can have any girl, and he can have any girl because he can approach any girl, so a normal guy always have women in his life he can date, have sex with them, be friend with them, be in a relationship, etc !! and this is only possible if the guy dont fear approchaing girls, and not fearing it’s power and strengh, and also it’s being normal in the end. wooow !! I understand everything !!
Apolonia, you unblocked my mind, after reading your article im able to think and understand, i was stucked in a false way of thinking.
Because of my shitty life, i forget my original mind, and didn’t practive and use and allow my masculine abilities, in life and with women !
Maybe seduction in the end is about to keep our real selves from destruction ? so we can be ourselves in the real way ? not fearing anything, and really being us as we should be ?
It’s a good one but for the start to a woman who seems very busy and serious how do I start
Hi Eric- Thanks for reading my blog about how to attract a girl. Typically she has to be attracted to you because you’re busy as well. Go in without expectations and show her she’s not a priority right away but initiate from time to time and let her come to you as well.
Best,
Apollonia
Ssendegeya Asuman
Hi Appolonia ponti.
I really love your work because you are one of the few women who give real advice for men.
Most women give generic and terrible advice to men about dating and woman attraction.
Your advice comes from a guys point of view.
Any way, my favourite is No. #2.
I realised that when i approach girls without any expectations like getting her contact or having sex with her or making her my girlfriend, i always succed most of the time.
》When you approach girls without expectations, you are always laid back and confident.
》 you approach girls without fearing rejection
》 And like you said, you do not show needy and desperate behaviours.
So what i usually do is focus on having fun with girls.
Nice time, Appolonia
Hello Ssendegeya! Thank you for reading “How To Attract A Girl: 10 Psychology Techniques To Attract Her Forever!” and your kind words! So happy to have you in our community. <3
Man loved the concepts you mentioned here !!!
Would love to contribute to the community, one of my secret that I’ve used
One Proven Psychological Tactics That I’ve used to impress girls.
Note… I have only used these tactics only on 3 girls. 2 Were Impressed But the relationship did not remain long, But One Turned Out to be my life partner 🥰, and we are together today 🙂
The Psychological Tactics is … Reverse Psychology
Reverse psychology is when you tell someone you can’t have something making it more challenging for them to get their hands on. For instance, if you tell one of your girlfriends to go up to her and say you’re not good for her, or you’re difficult to get, trust us she’ll double her effort into getting to know you better.
This is an absolute bomb.
It works every time, with every girl. I bet to you if you use this RIGHT NOW on a girl
She might not instantly be impressed… (If happen so, you’re the luckiest man on planet earth).
But I can assure you one thing she will open a loop in front of you for conservation to happen.
Next time that’ll be your call :).
All the best 😙.
P.S. This is one of the 11 Psychological Tactics I’ve Learned.
Actually, This was a book I purchased a long time back
I purchased it because it had all the tactics written in one place….(I love things organized)
If you wish to buy and learn from the book, I will link the site below.
Website To Read the Book
Such An Amazing Post
Thank you so much for reading how to attract a girl!
xo,
Apollonia
Thanks allot for what you have been doing for people but I need help am 18 years old and there’s this girl I meet since last year. She is 16 years but with a mature body and also my yard neighbor. We were communicating to each other but I don’t have feelings for her but she normally uses indirectly to say she has feelings for me to the extent she ask me to dis virgin her but I refuse. But this month I began to have this feelings for her to the point I proposed to her and she say that she is too young to have boyfriend and she is in school.and everything about her life changes automatically the way she dress, speak, walk and she started using some bullying words on people. I love her so much but what will I do. Please I need help.
Those are awesome tips for a guys especially. I wish I had read that during my days. Men should really read this and use it to make a better self for themselves, then only the women will come to them automatically. I could say that it is about improving yourself, that is the work that men should start working on.